How do I do it?

One of the most common questions that I get when I’m first introducing the principles behind life to my clients is, “how do I do it?” Another way in which this question comes up is when I’m speaking with them specifically about the nature of Thought and the thought-feeling relationship. Once they start to recognize that their emotions are coming from Thought, they will often ask, “how do I change my thinking,” or “how do I stop thinking about what’s upsetting me?”

I know it may not be what you want to hear, but there is nothing to do. What the principles point to is how your experience of life works. It’s like asking, “how do I do gravity for it to keep me down on the ground?” Most of us have grown up being taught that for us to learn, achieve, develop, improve, etc., we need to do something. And that makes sense when we want to develop a skill or improve our competence with something. For example, to become a good piano player, we need to practice and learn different skills. This is different in the sense that there isn’t a skill to learn or a particular competence to develop. As you start to understand the principles behind our experience and about the thought-feeling relationship, there is nothing to apply. The knowledge itself, your deeper awareness of how life works is all that it takes for you to experience changes in your life.

From this deeper understanding, we simply get a new thought when appropriate. Let me give you an example. One of my clients, let’s call her Jenny, was recently watching a story on TV of a family that had fled their home country due to a number of atrocities that are common in that country. Jenny started feeling really sad as she heard the story and was surprised to find herself on the verge of tears. She wondered why this particular story was affecting her much more than other sad stories she’s come across recently. It then occurred to her, she had a new thought, that there must be some unconscious thought that is having her associate to this sad story much more than others. As she recognized that her emotions must be linked to some thought, her sadness naturally started to shift. Jenny didn’t “do” anything about it to shift her mood or to change her thinking. Just the recognition that this must be an example of the thought-feeling relationship was enough and that recognition (thought) just came to her.

During his recent talk with Ali Campbell, entitled Diving In, Michael Neill said:

There is no ‘how you do it’ because it’s what happens and that’s what throws us, because we think, ‘I want it to happen faster.’ Anything you do to make it happen faster will make it happen slower. The design has a sense of humor.

I invite you to play with this for yourself. If you have been following my posts for a while, you have already been introduced to the idea that we live the feelings of our thought, not the feelings of the world around around us. You have read my descriptions and examples of how it’s our interpretation of the circumstances that we react to, not the circumstances themselves. So, next time you are feeling something that is not helping you in that moment, open yourself to consider the possibility that your emotion is being created by some thought (conscious or unconscious) that you are having. And as an experiment, assume the position that this may in fact be true, and see what happens.

I’d love to hear back from you about regarding your results from this experiment. You can add a comment to my post on the Facebook page, my LinkedIn profile or you can send me a note via our contact page.

Until the next time, may the four winds continue to help guide your way.

Lots of love,
Daniel